I have a horrible time making decisions. Anyone else with me on this? It’s not just the big ones either.
When Bryan and I were dating we were taking one of those personality tests. The question was “are you decisive?” I immediately answered (as serious as can be) “Yes! Well…no, I don’t know what do you think?” Then both of us busted out laughing.
I once spent a half hour trying to decide the most healthy snack I could find at a gas station. I got frustrated for wasting so much time and ended up with a donut.
Naming our children was also a HUGE decision. I couldn’t commit. What if we messed up and and named them something that meant something weird, or said something offensive in the “banana” song…this is very important ya know.
Suffice it to say I am horrible at making decisions.
Often times I know what I want but the decisions that affect another person are much tougher. I am your typical first born people pleaser and it pains me not to make everybody happy. What if I pick Mexican for dinner but everyone else wanted Italian? Oh the stress!
The wise Andy Stanly wrote a book on this subject (sheww I guess I’m not the only one with these issues) suggesting us to ask “the best question ever” when making decisions. Which is:
In light of my current situation and circumstances, what is the WISE thing for me to do.
Sometimes my “current situation” refers being a wife and mom and sometimes, more specifically, it means right here at this moment when faced with X decision what is the WISE thing for me to do.
We just created afamily mission statement and I LOVE it. It hangs on the wall reminding us of what is TRULY important. When opportunities present themselves this mission statement gives me direction and FREEDOM to choose what is most important.
I am learning to say no to the GOOD things so I can say yes to the BEST things.
I am learning to say OR instead of AND
I am learning just because I am available and CAN do something does not mean I SHOULD.
I am learning to guard my time and be okay with (gasp!) not making everyone happy. Trying to please everyone means I truly please no one. Making the decisions that honor the Lord and my family are what are most important.
I am in no way cured of being indecisive. But taking a step back and looking for the WISE thing to do helps me decide regardless of the other circumstances.
Now…what to cook for dinner????
Do you consider yourself decisive or indecisive?
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