Posted on 13. November 2011

Martha Stewart’s daughter and a lesson in PRIORITIES

Martha Stewart, your quintessential homemaker, picture perfect crafter, gourmet chef, amazing hostess, and gardener. 

We all have someone we look up to, and for so many women it is Martha Stewart.   When our days are stressful, dinner is burnt, and the centerpiece we tried to craft for thanksgiving looks more like a preschoolers art project, we close our eyes and think, “How does Martha do it?” 

According to her daughter, while Martha was pretending to be betty homemaker to the world, she ignored her own family. 

"If I didn't do something perfectly, I had to do it again," writes her daughter. "I grew up with a glue gun pointed at my head." source

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She goes on to say "There was never anything to eat at my house," and despite Martha’s seemingly love for the holidays, her daughter said she was quite “humbug” about them in reality. 

While Martha was pretending to be perfect, her own daughter suffered.  I’m not trying to dog on Martha, she was running a successful TV 'show and magazine, writing cookbooks and who knows all of her other million obligations, there is now way she could DO IT ALL. 

She was never designed to DO IT ALL.

This my friends, is point of Imperfect People.

So many are wearing the masks of  “I have it all together” when families are falling apart. 

When the stress of the world tells us to go here, do that ,and be the leader of this, we have to KNOW what it is we are designed to do and don’t apologize for saying no to something that doesn’t fit into the mission God has given us. 

How do you know your mission?

List out your top 5 priorities.  The things that take up the majority of your time, talent, and treasure.  If all else fades,  if money didn’t matter, cross out your obligations one by one until you are left with the TWO that are most important.

Go ahead write them down.

What are you left with?

Hopefully it is family and faith. 

Of course we cannot ignore those other three priorities but i hope that shed light on the things that TRULY matter. 

Another way to help decide your mission is discovering what are you passionate about.   What gets you up in the morning and gets you excited? What are your gifts talents? 

Once you know what is most important, develop a family mission statement.  Deciding what is most important as a family helps you to say NO to the good opportunities so you can say YES to the best opportunities.  Example here.

mission statement

Martha Stewart has talents no doubt, and I don’t think it is wrong that she had a successful career using those talents.  I just think she may have lost sight of what is MOST important. 

While loving the Lord with all our hearts is the MOST important, I believe family certainly comes way before career, hobbies, and fame and fortune. 

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Posted on 3. November 2011

Testimonies abound!

You know I can’t get enough of hearing God’s story worked into the lives of everyday people.  My friend Melissa is dedicating the entire month of November to showcasing testimonies on her blog!  Yours truly is sharing hers today.  So go check it out!

Also a big congrats to Caryn Poling the winner of the book Kisses from Katie.  If you didn’t win and would still like a copy of her book it’s pretty affordable on Amazon. 
I love you perfectly Imperfect People!
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Posted on 11. October 2011

Jesus needs a better advertising campaign

The Barna Group, a respected Christian survey organization, recently asked young people to identify which perceptions they most strongly associate with Christianity. The three most commonly agreed-upon were: anti-homosexual, judgmental, and hypocritical.

god hates fags

Westboro Baptist church has made headlines with their “God hates fags” philosophy where they protest soldiers funerals.  Also making headlines are abortion clinics being bombed & protests for nearly everything under the sun.

At almost every event with a large crowd you can find “the megaphone man” yelling about hell and eternal damnation. 

All in the name of Jesus?? 

If this is the Christianity the world sees than no wonder many people are not interested. 

My dear friend Katelyn posted this awesome quote:

I have decided to stop letting political and religious organizations represent me on the issues. I have decided to represent myself, and in so doing I hope to accurately represent Christ.

-Mike Foster “Unchristain”

Dear friends, Forgive us. Forgive us for the embarrassing things we have done in the name of Jesus.

We are imperfect people for sure.  Our attempts to model Jesus are clumsy at best.  He calls us, imperfect and broken, to transform us so we are no longer the same.  We just don’t always leave the old us behind. 

Please don’t reject Christ because of Christians.  We are still trying to wrap our head around the God of the universe wanting to make disciples out of us. 

Despite our misrepresentation, Jesus was a pretty amazing guy. 

He was the preacher of all preachers yet you could find him dining with some of the worst “sinners” of his day.  Mark 2:15

He was the King of all the universe yet he was born to regular people in a palace no wait, a manger.  Luke 2:7

He deserved servants and crowns, yet he washed his disciples feet. John 13 1-17

He is the only one that was or ever will be worthy of all the fame and fortune of the world, yet he was a servant. Mark 9:35

He spoke love into the people no one loved. John 4

He would touch those no one else would touch. Mark 1:40-45

He did nothing wrong, but he never tried to defend himself. John 18:28-38

He could have had a thousand Angels come to take his place on the cross, but he took mine instead.   John 19:28-30

 I want to invite you to consider that maybe the televangelists and street preachers are wrong — and that God really is love. Maybe the fruits of the Spirit really are beautiful things like peace, patience, kindness, joy, love, goodness, and not the ugly things that have come to characterize religion.

-Shane Claiborne

The Jesus I know is turning the world upside down with his love.  The less I get in the way the better he can “advertise” through me. 

Have you ever witnessed a not so great "advertisment" for Jesus?


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Posted on 5. October 2011

I used to be cool


As you can clearly see in this Halloween picture circa 1990 maybe? I was Oh so cool.  I know, I know, the huge yellow bow in my hair and the Halloween tights are pretty amazing.  Don’t be jealous. 

Somewhere between getting older and having kids i officially became un-cool.

My clothing is whatever fits and is on sale. 

I have no problem going places without makeup.

The last party I crashed I showed up (accidently) an hour late and forgot my kid’s shoes.  

My handbags and shoes come from yard sales. 

I often have stickers on my back thanks to my kids. 

The few famous people encounters I have had, are “famous people” no one has heard of.  Although I did walk by Angelina Jolie in NYC.  Oh yea baby.

My cell phone (which wasn’t even a cool phone) recently died after surviving a trip all around town on the top of my car!  Poor phone couldn’t hold on any longer and fell to it’s death less than a mile from home.

Being cool and fitting in was the only thing in the world that mattered as a not so much.

Oh how all of the wrong things mattered so much when I was young and not at all now.  

Dear Hannah and Ava, when you are teenagers please know that you are the ultimate in cool regardless of what the world thinks.  I pray knowing a loving God who thinks you are a rock star is all you need for acceptance. 


I love your comments. Share an “un-cool” moment you have had. 

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Posted on 26. September 2011


Several years ago Jesus said “come follow me.” After looking at the mess I made of doing life my way, I happily jumped at the chance to go on an amazing journey with the God of the universe.  He promised a truly abundant life where I would never have to search again for meaning or belonging.  In a modern version of our story Jesus and I are on a road trip.  But I’m afraid I am a terrible backseat driver. 

I keep telling Him to turn when He should go straight, I keep asking, “What’s next?  Are we there yet?  What time is it?  What’s the next stop?  Can I see a map?  Are you sure you know where we are going? I really think I should drive instead.” 

 And if that wasn’t annoying enough I have a TON of luggage.  I brought a duffle bag full of worry, a suitcase of insecurity, three bags of selfishness and we are pulling a trailer behind full of fear. 

It’s heavy, it’s a burden, and it’s so much less than what He is offering me. 

road trip

I just returned from a walk to Emmaus.  An amazing journey where I saw the face of Jesus in so many ways. I learned God loves me more than I can possibly imagine

It sounds trite.  We have heard forever that Jesus loves us.  But I don’t think I knew that Jesus loved the REAL me.  Sure he loves the me that seems put together.  But could he possibly love the me that gets horribly impatient when I’m in a hurry?  Me that is selfish?  The me that secretly wishes really bad things to happen to Barney the dinosaur?  (sorry he is annoying).  The messy, unorganized, and forgetful me? 

Believe it or not he does.  HE MADE ME IN HIS IMAGE.  Despite as often as I forget this, and think I know better. The designer knows best how to care for his design. 

He knows where we are going on this journey, I don’t.  He knows what stops we will make, I don’t.  I keep trying to take control but the truth is I never had it anyway. 

He only asks me to trust. 

He’s got this. 

It’s time for me to toss out the luggage, sit back, crank up the radio, and enjoy the trip. Thankful that I know no matter what the next stop holds, I am in very good hands on this journey.

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Posted on 19. September 2011

Picture Perfect Life

Perfectionism is a moving target.  It looks differently for everyone.  It even changes form considering your stage of life.   Our facebook status is usually about the wonderful day we had at the park being super mom, and the blogs I read are about making perfect meals with 6 kids running around and singing happily all the way. 


As i just got done taking care of my two year old who took off all her clothes and pooped in the bed AGAIN, I realize my life isn’t always a perfect picture. 

Thankfully I know what we “advertise to the world” isn’t always the real us.  We put on our best, talk about our best, and even try to ignore our own flaws. 

I don’t know about you but that is not my REAL LIFE. 

My husband and I sometimes have “discussions” AKA arguments, my desk is usually a mess, and I am not often sitting down doing crafts with my kids either. 

We need to understand that the “perfect picture” we often see online isn’t the whole story (or even the “real” story sometimes). What others choose to show the world is usually the best of their lives (or what they wish their lives looked like and the rest is kept behind closed doors.)

How great it is to hear the words, “I can relate, and i know how you feel.” 

What would happen if we were just HONEST with each other.  Not complaining, just honesty and support for one another.  It is such a relief when I know others don’t have everything figured out either! 

Some of the most powerful stories are people who have walked down a very dark and difficult road, yet God has redeemed it.  What a bummer it would be not to share the miracle God has done!

My encouragement today is to be you! 

The worst that can happen is someone will think they are better than you, and let them have that temporary joy as you know the TRUTH.  God doesn’t judge our outside appearance, he judges our heart.  But more often that not, people will be relived and thank you for your honestly.

When we realize that we’re all just trying to find our way through LIFE together, we can stop comparing and start encouraging.

Share your thoughts.  What do you think?


Don’t worry this is not poop...this is our latest lipstick incident. Tags: imperfection,grace


Posted on 7. September 2011

My Imperfect Story via video!

Last Sunday at church I had the privilege of sharing what God is done in my life through a video testimony. 

Our pastor was talking about condemnation.  And being that I give myself a pretty hard time I guess it was a good fit for the sermon.  This makes me crazy nervous to share.  I don't know, something about the video...I feel so vulnerable!  But as I say all the time there is so much healing in being vulnerable sooo....I hope you enjoy! 

(if you are reading on email or RSS reader click here to view). 



Greg at Connection Church did a great job of editing it and making it not too obvious that I was so anxious and trying really hard not to talk at the speed of light.

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